Webster’s dictionary defines dreams as “a series of thoughts, images, or emotions occurring during sleep.” Topics of dreams can be almost anything and often appear in abstract ways. Some people may feel worried about having sexual dreams, particularly those that are far from reality. For example, a woman who leads an extremely virtuous and respectable life may feel disturbed by dreams in which she has wild sex with many men. Similarly, a man who prides himself on being ‘straight,’ and who actually dislikes homosexuals, may feel shattered to find that he has dreams in which he is engaging in sexual activity with a man. However, a lot of people do not feel troubled by their sexual dreams and simply enjoy them for what they are. This is usually the best approach to take.
Trying to unlock the mystery of sex dreams, in particular, recent research by Calvin Kai-Ching Yu and Wai Fu from Hong Kong Shue Yan University entitled, “Sex dreams, wet dreams, and nocturnal emissions” questioned 58 young male college students about sexual dreams. The study asked respondents to choose from a list of sexual activities that they had dreamed about. The list included activities such as kissing on the lips, foreplay, oral sex, intercourse and other sex acts. The authors asked whether or not the respondents had sexually released during a dream or if the release was in response to a dream image. Survey results revealed:
- Ninety five percent of respondents (all male) had dreamed about sex with a woman.
- The study also showed that approximately 80% of respondents reported having a wet dream at least once. Intriguingly, the young men indicated that the women they dreamed about were most often complete strangers.
- Most respondents indicated that dreams of intercourse with a woman only happened about 9 times a year.
- Hot for teacher was also the case for the respondents with about a third of the sample said the objects in their sex dreams were female teachers.
- Mothers showed up in their sex dreams in about 10% of the participants.
- Lastly nearly 12% of heterosexual participants indicated dreams about homosexual activities.
According to ivillage.com, the most common sex dreams are sex with a boss or teacher, sex with an ex-wife, sex with a stranger, sex with a best friend’s wife, and same-sex sex. Since sex is such a major focal point for people, the survey finding regarding the rarity of sex dreams is especially a mindbender. Why does sex dominate the waking but rarely shows up while sleeping? This will be a continued question for psychologists. In the meantime, dreams are still a mystery of the mind that will continue to baffle us all.
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