According to Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller’s book, I (heart) Female Orgasm, men and women face different time frames for achieving orgasm. On average women need twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm; whereas, guys only need two to five minutes. With a little patience and perseverance, guys, you can reach your sexual climax while also achieving rock star lover status with your mate. Here are five simple tips to be a great lover.
- Smell good: Dudes, bluntly I must say that men can easily perspire and get smelly. Women are tuned in and turned on with multiple senses. If you are showered and shaved with a hint of her favorite cologne, that will set the sexual attraction in motion. Body odor, bad breath and sandpaper stubble on her face and thigh is a prescription for your lady to start complaining of a headache. She may be too considerate to tell you that you are too stinky for a turn on.
- Master foreplay. Many men want to rush to doing the deed and forget foreplay. Foreplay is fun and consists of touching, kissing, stroking, caressing, nibbling, licking, whispering and grinding. Add all of that and repeat, repeat, repeat before jumping to intercourse.
- Understand the clitoris. Again, don’t dive to the secret garden in the first few minutes of your sexual experience. Most women don’t want immediate attention to the clitoris. For the clitoris to feel good, foreplay must have already taken place and arousal at a high. The clitoris is highly sensitive, requiring a very gentle and lubricated touch. If you’ve watched rough sex during pornography, that is usually the opposite of what women want.
- Show patience. Remember, women on average take twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm; whereas, men two to three minutes. Therefore, guys, patience is a key to your lady’s orgasmic happiness and your rock star lover status.
- Practice women come first. While this may not happen every time, it’s a great mantra and practice. Men who focus only on themselves may find that their lady isn’t as interested in sex. After all, if it is only one sided, it starts to feel quite empty.
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